Dowry

Recently someone asked me how much is the dowry my family is giving.
A tragedy that I wasnt shocked. Or was I calmly rejoicing when I replied that we dont give dowries.

The dowry system is still prevelent but I think on a downslide.
Most gals work and are very clear on what kind of guy they want.
But have the guys caught up?
Sadly ... No. Ive come across a number of guys who insist on dowry. Their parents shamelessly ask it upfront.
Some what it in kind and some want it in cash. Most insist that the dowry should be given before the wedding.
Ive come across guys who boast that they got such n such amount for dowry. Are these guys out of their minds? Id love to show them their true worth. Apart from being good husband material (doubtful), I dont see anything speacial in any of the guys. Why not give the same amount to the gal. She'll make better use of it.
Or still better why dont the gals parents use it. This is the age they should enjoy each others and live a peaceful life. Spending it on themselves is the best way to use the hard earned money.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Interesting that i happened to read the post today. One of my colleagues was earlier boasting about how much money he got as dowry and was actually saying that if only he had married now he wud have got double or triple the amt.

Don't these guys see that they are actually selling themselves like cattle. I wish all girls say that they will not marry if the guy (or guys family) ask dowry. At-least the population growth might reduce ;)

And guys where did our sophistication and independence go when we (or our parents) discuss abt dowry

Unknown said...

One side of the story is this. On the other side, many girls feel that dowry should be given, as that is their share of property that they are supposed to enjoy.
Though everyone interprets it differently, how many girls insisted on not giving dowry.

On the broader side, girls are getting better education and with better job opportunities around they are able to manage their family on their own.
Girls with the power to lead an independent life, dowry system would be weakened and will slowly vanish.

Anonymous said...

I disagree that girls expect a dowry.
Girls are equally entitled to the share of property by law.
So wheres the point of giving one?